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You're not broken

January 08, 20262 min read

You’re not broken - you’re just disconnected from yourself.

There is a quiet exhaustion that many capable, accomplished women carry. Not the kind that comes from doing too much in a single week - but the deeper tiredness that comes from years of being “on,” responsible, dependable, and externally focused.

For many women, on the outside, life looks fine. Often even good. Yet inside, something feels muted. Disconnected. Slightly out of reach. And because nothing is obviously wrong, many women assume the problem must be them.

But ladies let me tell you - you’re not broken at all.

You’re simply disconnected from yourself.

The pressure on women to meet expectations

Most women I work with have spent decades orienting outward, meeting expectations, managing roles, holding things together. Somewhere along the way, their inner world became secondary. Not intentionally. Just gradually.

The nervous system adapts to this by staying alert, responsive, and subtly braced. Over time, this state becomes normal. You don’t notice the tension anymore - until you pause. And that’s often when the discomfort appears.

This isn’t a failure of mindset or resilience. It’s a sign that your system hasn’t had the chance to truly settle.

Disconnection doesn’t mean you’ve lost yourself. It means your attention has been elsewhere for a long time.

Reconnection doesn’t require fixing, analysing, or reinventing your life. It requires space. Safety. And permission to stop performing - even internally.

When women are given a calm, contained space to simply arrive - without expectation - something remarkable happens. Breath deepens. Shoulders soften. Thoughts slow. And a familiar sense of “me” quietly returns.

That’s alignment.

Not dramatic. Not loud. But deeply relieving.

If this resonates, if you recognise that quiet sense of disconnection - know this: it’s not too late, and it’s not complicated.

If this sounds like you, I’m creating something a little different - a shared, immersive experience that allows you to recalibrate rather than push. You’re very welcome there.

Val guides capable, accomplished and highly functioning women into their vibrant alignment years - helping them live calmer, clearer, and deeply self-led through nervous-system–led, subconscious work.

Val Keay

Val guides capable, accomplished and highly functioning women into their vibrant alignment years - helping them live calmer, clearer, and deeply self-led through nervous-system–led, subconscious work.

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